MY CHILD, the highest goal of your life is union with Me in Heaven. Let your intentions throughout the day be guided by this truth. In all things be sure to stay on the path which leads to Heaven. Do not become too deeply interested in the passing desires and brief enjoyments of this earthly life.
2. I have given you everything that you are and everything you have. All things come to you from Me, the Supreme Good. Whatever comes, accept it, use it, enjoy it, as I wish and as much as I wish.
3. If you think only of satisfying yourself, without considering My approval, your mind becomes confused and your will becomes weak. Mistakes and sins will rob you of peace on earth and of unending happiness in Heaven. In all things, therefore, keep your eyes on Me.
4. Happy are those who desire only what I want, trying steadily to do My Will. Such people do not let themselves become completely absorbed by their daily activities. They frequently offer their activities to Me. They see the brevity of human contentment on earth.
5. Examine your motives in your daily words and actions. Find out how you may please Me more, and avoid everything which may draw you away from Me.
-My Daily Bread
We naturally attempt to fill the void of feeling lonely with materialistic things. These things often are forced and if we truly take a step back and ask if this will bring eternal happiness, that answer will be quite obvious. So, you are waiting till marriage. That is a decision you have made. Do you really thing that stooping down to someones else request for sexual intimacy with bring you happiness? That void of sexuality is theirs, not yours. Fulfilling others desires will still leave you with no satisfaction of your own- back to square one.
Pray for desires and activities that bring you happiness. Activities are social and communal they often involve people. Meeting like minded individuals who you have a commonality with will often fill voids. Don’t let the world get the back of you. We are not maid for the world, we are made for eternal happiness.
Ah, being emotionally chaste is truly a virtue. Sometimes we get caught up in the emotions of the world and we think our heart is leading us to love. That said, I’m sure this girl is indeed beautiful; You can not place that high of expectations on her or on yourself. You are setting your self up for “The let down”
Think about this:
“Never desire special praise or love, for that belongs to God alone Who has no equal. Never wish that anyone’s affection be centered in you, nor let yourself be taken up with the love of anyone, but let Jesus be in you and in every good man. Be pure and free within, un-entangled with any creature.”-Thomas A Kempis, My Imitation of Christ